Long Distance Problems

Hi I really need advice I've been in a ldr with my girlfriend for nearly a year and every time I go back home it gets harder I miss her so much I get really upset and sometimes over Skype she doesn't really show emotion and she has this lad friend she sometimes talks to on Facebook and I think he has a crush on her I've told her it bothers me and I don't know why it does but it does and she's reassured me that he's just a friend and I have nothing to worry about but I don't know what to do.

loooovebythemoon — Sun, 10 Mar 2013 14:18:10 -0700

You need to trust her until she gives you a reason not to! If you keep treating her like she’s messing up, then she will actually mess up.

xoxo Sky

you have been together 8 months? or more?

liiiivebythesun — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 19:37:47 -0800

We have been together a year and 2 months!

Darrell :)

I am so new to this long distance thing, I finally met this girl that I can see myself with for a while what do you do when every thing is going wrong in their life and I don't have the funds to run to her rescue.

loooovebythemoon — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 23:46:42 -0800

Dont try to rescue her, but be there to listen and support her. That’s probably what she needs most.

xoxo Sky

What do you do about family members asking questions? My dads girlfriend likes to ask me tons of questions about my relationship & my happiness & she doesn't really do it in a nice way. It's hard for me to put into words my relationship with my boyfriend & how much I love him & that someday we'll get married. But she doesn't really seem to get it & isnt convinced & it really bugs me. My boyfriend keeps telling me that I don't have to answer to her which I get but I want my family to understand.

loooovebythemoon — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 23:43:08 -0800

Your relationship isnt about making your dads girlfriend understand it, but i can understand how it would be important for your family to “get it”. Try to explain that since you werent interested in anyone near you, you went out and looked for someone more interesting, somewhere else. And you found them, but theyre far away and one day you’ll be together but arent right now and thats okay with you.

xoxo Sky

i just came back from meeting my long-distance boyfriend of two years. it was the most spectacular weekend of my life, but now being apart again hurts more than anything has ever hurt me in my whole entire life. i miss him so much, much more than before...how do i deal with this pain of goodbyes?

liiiivebythesun — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 23:52:01 -0800

Take it day by day and look forward to the next time you will see him! Don’t dwell on the distance :)

xoxo Sky

this isn’t an actual story, but maybe, who knows. :) just...

hylexuly — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 23:50:34 -0800

this isn’t an actual story, but maybe, who knows. :)

just something to help ldr couples fight the distance sadness

I think the distance between my ex girlfriend and I kind of drove her away a bit. She still loves and cares about me, but she doesn't see a future with me or know if she's 'in love' with me. We have supported each other a lot- I was hospitalized, living with an abusive mother, and put into medical debt, and she has had a terrible boss and having trouble figuring out her future- so letting go so quickly seems wrong when we've been through so much together. Is there any way to reconnect?

loooovebythemoon — Sat, 16 Feb 2013 23:35:04 -0800

Dont hold on to someone just because you once found solace in them. The support you gave and received before may have been fitting for the time, but may not be right, right now. Stay friends, let her figure out her future, and you go figure out yours! Keep your heart open, not locked away for some future dream that may never happen.

xoxo Sky

So my boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. I'm having a hard time dealing with not see him until may. We are usually very good about making up after we fight and getting through our differences, but lately its just been so different. I don't know if it's just me being a girl and more sensitive about things for some reason or that his feelings are changing. I'm kind of confused and feel a little helpless. Any advice?

loooovebythemoon — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 18:42:08 -0800

Try taking it day by day, and not focusing on how long you’re going to go without seeing him. Plan near-future things, like skype dates, or to watch the same movie on tv together, and take it easy. Don’t sweat the petty stuff.

xoxo Sky

Just wanted to share: I met my best guy friend on instagram in the summer. We talked a bit and drifted until now. We reconnected two weeks ago and suddenly we got super close. We skyped for hours and just kiked alot. He lives in England, and I in the us. We are 4643 miles away. It sucks. My boyfriend thinks its weird and it makes him annoyed. But this boy has made me do indescribably happy these past few weeks. He says he can't and won't stop talking to me. He said he was fine before but now

loooovebythemoon — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 18:40:51 -0800

he's so happy it's unreal. I really feel like we just connect. Our souls were made to meet and become close. Distance really doesn't bother me because I'm determined to visit him once I graduate next year. c:

loooovebythemoon — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 18:40:48 -0800

It's still hard, despite the distance being closed...

thedistanceclosed — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 18:40:41 -0800

A post regarding how tough it still is, despite our distance being closed. Thought your followers would enjoy the read. :)

thedistanceclosed.tumblr.com/post/42884767266/its-still-hard-despite-the-distance-being-closed

I just wanted to share my excitement :) Tomorrow I'm flying to Vegas to be with my SO for 5 days. We haven't haven't spent any significant time together since the end last March and so I'm BEYOND excited. All the waiting and planning is most definitely going to be worth it :)

liiiivebythesun — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 18:26:32 -0800

That’s great! I slightly (very slightly) miss those days of flying to Vegas, but only because I remember how excited I was to see Sky. Hope you two have a great time together!

- Darrell (:

To the anon asking about marriage; My LDBF and I speak about it, frequently. It's not because it's a way to finally be together, but to fully claim one another as each others and no one elses. The other week we were even talking about wedding rings and children we wanted. It's still too early however, but we've known each other for five years (this Feb) and been dating for one year, but we know that there is no one else we want to spend our futures with.

loooovebythemoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 23:19:04 -0800

The best of luck to you! xoxo

I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, never met him, or seen him except in pictures/talk on the phone. c:

loooovebythemoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 23:18:36 -0800

Wow! Hopefully you will meet and everything will work out as you hoped! xoxo

I'm a girl who is completely in love with another girl. We have been in a long distance relationship for three years now. We've had our ups and downs but she is my best friend. She is coming to see me this Summer for the very first time. I could not be happier.

loooovebythemoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 23:18:13 -0800

Congratulations! xoxo

In response to your "Question to our followers" post. My girlfriend and I have yet to meet. We'll be dating for a year in February.

loooovebythemoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 23:17:58 -0800

I am one of the followers that hasn't seen anything but a picture of my LDSO.. we've been together three years next month.

loooovebythemoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 23:17:51 -0800

Wow!

I have recently went to go visit my boyfriend whom I've met online that I have been with for 3 1/2 years. I had such an amazing experience and I wish that others will feel this happiness with their loved ones

liiiivebythesun — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 19:30:30 -0800

Congrats to you, sounds like it was well worth the wait

- Darrell (:

Question to our followers

liiiivebythesun — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 19:20:55 -0800

Are there any of you out there that have yet to see your LDSO other than still photos? How long have you been in your relationships?

just wondering ^_^

Anon who asked about marriage talk: My ldbf and I talk about it a lot too, and our talks are serious. I think, though, that it really depends on your specific relationship. If you love each other, you can be pretty sure it's serious. It's true that the allure of a bond that would bring you together is there, and it does play a part in the mentioning of marriage and in when you first consider it as a viable desire, but if those feelings persist and you love them, you can be pretty sure it's real.

liiiivebythesun — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 19:13:00 -0800